If you have ever gotten a psychic reading in the past, you probably wanted to learn more about your love life. No matter which form your current problems take, most of them have common roots, or causes. When you get to the root of the problem, you can fix it.
If you are in a relationship, looking for a relationship, or feeling hurt, this is for you. If I could bottle up all of the advice I have given to clients in the past to help you now, this would be it.
#1 Love yourself first.
Love you first. Love yourself so much that you don’t actually need anyone else in your life. Love yourself enough, that you could take or leave any relationship.
Maintain your own interests. Maintain your own friendships.
Learn and grow as an individual first. Reflect on who you are and what you want out of life- for yourself, not just with your significant other. Dedicate time to yourself every single day.
Don’t feel the urge to skip over this point. It sounds really simple, but loving ourselves is one of the most challenging aspects of being a human being. It is the most important point of all because if you don’t love you, you won’t have love to give in a relationship.
#2 No relationship is perfect
Every relationship has issues because people have flaws. When you put two humans together, you’re going to have some differences.
You are in a relationship to grow, and when you work through those differences, you grow. You always have a choice whether or not you want to stay in a relationship. Just know that every relationship is beautifully imperfect.
#3 You have many soulmates
There isn’t just one. Every soulmate teaches you something, and helps you grow spiritually & emotionally. Sometimes those lessons are hard to get through, but the rewards are great. Every soulmate is a stepping stone bringing you closer and closer to self-love and unconditional love.
#4 Know when it is time to go
Sometimes the person you’re in the relationship with is not willing to love himself/herself. He or she may cheat consistently, abuse drugs, or mistreat you. If you are in a situation like that and the other person isn’t working on getting better, love yourself enough to go.
Unconditional love does not mean that you go down with the ship. Sometimes leaving is the most loving thing that you can do for a person.
As a given, if you are being abused in any form, please seek help. Abuse, emotional or physical, is never okay. No matter how many promises the other person makes to you. Get out of that toxic situation and seek help from friends and family.
#5 Grow together
Grow together by establishing goals together. Not just real world goals like buying a house, but spiritual goals. There may be things that you are both working on, like being more loving or building better communication. No matter what you want to work on, work on it together.
In your heart, you already know the answers to all of the questions you have. Look to your heart, first, always – that’s where unconditional love lives.